Thanks for stopping by and comparing sitch's. Yeah my W has given me a lot of lame excuses about why she won't quit the dance class or stop dancing with the OM, similar to your W and the band.
I'll have to read your thread about what happened when you got her to choose you over the band to where you guys are now, before I can really comment on that, but i'm guessing it wasn't a straight me or him ultimatum?
Right now I know exactly where I am in my sitch, I'm happy with how I'm feeling now, I'm still working on me, but it really is just for me.
Emotionally I feel ready to give my W an ultimatum and move forward with my life whether it's with my W or not, but physically and financially I can't really back that up until my teacher training is over and I get my 1st job.
That's a year away and judging by this year a lot can happen in that amount of time.
Things might get better organically, my W could file, literally anything could happen and it wouldn't surprise me.
All I know is that things change one way or another, but nothing can be forced, we just learn as we go and if we can't save our Marraige, we save ourselves by using these experiences to make sure we don't make the same mistakes again in our R's.
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
