First of all, I don't think you should have thrown SIL under the bus like that. She's a doctor and your other sister is a nurse and they both said it was okay. Plus your W wasn't around. In the end it's not your SIL's fault. If you keep doing that you are destroying your family support system. It's no wonder you feel that you and your W have no familial support.
Next, in terms of your W, the reason why she is soooo slow at making a decision is because she really hasn't tried ANYTHING. It may be because of her profession, but she's doing a lousy job of self-diagnosing. The only way that she will have a happy M is to totally open herself up and trust. I can never understand how people say they can be fine being unhappy with the rest of their lives. Duh, if you actually did some work to make yourself happy wouldn't it be worth it?
Look up Project Happily Ever After. It's a book and website that you W might like to read. Keep DB for yourself, but the other site is good for your W to see how a woman who pretty much wanted her H dead, turned their M around into one that is wholly loving.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
