It's not needy afa. That's what this board is for. That's why we are all here. Very painful time of our lives. You are no different than anyone else here. Don't feel badly about asking for information or resources.
Bond and and others can help you find the resources that you are looking for better than I can. However, I'd suggest going over to the MLC forum and reading about it there. I haven't seen anything in your thread that indicates that your W is MLC. It seems that she is a typical WAW. But sometimes those lines can cross I think.
You also might looking into reading some books on co-dependency. "Co-Dependent No More" is the name of one book I believe.
Can others help afa with some good resources?
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
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