Thank you so much for chiming in & giving a breath on how to reflect & survive this!
Denver/Freshman,
Again thanks as usual for all insight, it's amazing how well we can view another's sitch, but when it comes to our own we freeze up like deer in the headlights!
Denver/Chatter/All,
I do have too mention that after she left, a few minutes later she texted and stated that: "You need to give me a response on the papers"!
Do you think that was part of the anger?
I know that this would be mind readin, just kind of coincidental that she sent that right after!
Not sure if you remember, but she had papers drafted from L for me to look over, as she stated we would keep this out of court & go the mediation route instead of paying big $$$, which neither of us have & versus dragging kids through things. The papers that were drafted are technically not legal per the court (I called) because it was never filed (which I look at as a blessing). But I have heald onto them per Denver's advice of more time for about a month now.
I know I probably should give them back to her with the changes I have made & see if her L drafts them to what I have written, then revisit them & see if there are any more changes that need to be made & see if she goes along with what I changed. I don't want to be construed as uncooperative, as I don't want her to become more angry or vindictive. But I also don't want to help her or speed this process along, as I still think we will Reconcile with more time.
I am torn on what to do now & did not respond to the text last night, as it really didn't require one.
I have also asked children & sister to not mention A to anyone (they are only ones who know), as I don't want her name dragged through the mud at the school (reputation of being phenominal teacher). Don't want kids telling friends or her co-workers. I don't feel outing the A will do any good & I feel this will keep the road home paved smooth. But this is just my opinion, which I am sticking with. People may already know, as she may have told them, but I still wear my ring & am still her husband.
