She's only the most beautiful woman in the world because she's out of reach right now and yanked the rug on you abruptly. Your brain is putting her on a pedestal because she represents salvation from the pain you are feeling.

There is no "quicker", there is only "longer" when you get where you are. It requires a long term view. As long as you pursue her as the object of your desire you can't have her. You only get her back when you're really no longer trying, and that makes this very hard.

That's not to say "give up" -- the prescription in DR is very clear:

-- 180 her complaints
-- Get a life (GAL)
-- Act as if everything is good

Do that every day for the next 1-2 years. Either you'll reconcile or you won't, but in either case you'll be a better person capable of better relationships going forward.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015