Thanks for your help all. Husband now not picking as much but rude. We were at my dad's cottage and a friend of my H was walking by with his wife. H chatted with him and didn't introduce me, I and my dad and kids were right there. The friend cut the conversation short because his wife had to get down to their boat, so my husband used that as an excuse for no introductions. This happened last year. Same guy and my husband talked awhile and didn't introduce me. I told him then that he was rude. My plan next time is to introduce myself. Then H invited himself down to see the guys boat before he left and I said well how bout if I come? He said ok then a few min later started to leave and when I said I thought we were both going he said he was only going for a few minutes so it was evident to me that he did not want me to go. Then he said well if you are going we have to go now. I told him to forget it, it was obvious he wanted to go alone then he got a little exasperated and left.
Also since he is being cool to me as far as affection I have backed off. H says he wants to work on marriage and talks to me at night out in the backyard for awhile just about every night, we go out to dinner every week and we have gone to my dad's cottage. Should I just be patient with that for now? I don't feel loved. It's more like we are roommates. I know he is still getting over the affair and I hope he is not talking to Ow. Not sure. So what do I do? I try to be upbeat and instead of carrying a grudge when he is rude and I try to set boundaries. I try to get past things even though I get no apology. How long do I remain patient? I'm 55. I hope this doesn't go on for years.
