Ces, Just read this entire thread, and want to say a few things. First, you are an inspiration, I'm more hopeful about my sich based on reading yours and how you managed to overcome obstacles. Secondly, I must agree with Labugs, last comment, about changing priorities. Part of my sich is due to myself working too much / too late in order to make more money = more financial stability versus tending to my W's actual emotional needs (QT). If you agree, remember the song, "Even though we ain't got money, I'm still in love with ya honey"