I went about my business for the remainder of last night and this morning. Last night I read in bed until he came in. I laid down and left the overhead light on and he let out a big sigh when he had to turn it off.
This morning I had some bookkeeping to do. Before he left he asked me to generate some bills for him, which I did. It was a bill I had been nagging him to get done for months, so I was happy he was finally doing it. Neither one of us had an attitude in our tones of voice.
Before he left, he went to the door to say goodbye to D16 and then walked back over to where I was to say goodbye. I let all of yesterday go, which is somewhat of a 180, and went about my business with out being crappy to him or making smart remarks.
I spoke with a friend this morning about how frustrated I am with the inability to GAL and started to come up with solutions. She also gave me some advice on how to word things with H. From what I can tell, I've been asking his permission to do things that I wanted to do instead of telling him what I was going to do and asking if he was available to watch D16. Something for me to work on.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together