'We talked, ..yelled' Words will not change her mind at all. She has to see the differences. You are wasting your energy and emotions in trying to convince her of what you are trying to change in your R.
She feels numb to you for a reason..... It is to protect her from the pain of her emotions. You will not change this. Only she can lose this numbness over time - time and space from you to sort out her own feelings.
The more you 'chase' her the more you push her away because she wants space and time...
DO NOT twist the advice you receive on these forums to how you perceive you should act in repairing your R. You are in the thick of it and so - you cant see the woods for the trees. By twisting the advice, you reduce the effectiveness of it.
I made this mistake.
It just prolonged the pain.
Follow the 'Rules'
Give unbiased accounts of your R and your actions to the forum and truly listen to the advice.
It really is sage advice.
Here you will get untainted advice... Listen to family and friends and you will receive tainted advice that is calculated to make you feel better - not improve your R.
Which would you prefer..??
Lastly for now, your time perception is wrong. You are still counting the days and weeks.
It may take months - months - for you to see any improvement in your R, if at all. All you are doing is hurting yourself and still looking backwards...
Regards, Gyn.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
