Read Bond's post again, there's a lot of truth there.

My analogy for this is, picture 2 paths, you're on yours, XH is on his. The goal in from on of you is the person you want to be. Don't confuse that with the W of XH you want to be but the whole and healthy person you want to be. Who knows what XH's goals are right now but it's not your business really.

You keep walking your path as he continues on his. Someday...someday the paths might converge, might. But either way you are in a better place because you've become the woman you were meant to be.

That's all you can do. You have no control over other people and when you really let that rule your thinking your life will become much better.

Right now it seems you're trying to use a bulldozer to force your paths together. He's not appreciating that.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss