Decent weekend. Friday night was a family night. We just hung out together as a family and watched a movie together. Nothing major on Saturday or Sunday either. We got some stuff done around the house. W and I had some normal conversation about stuff we're doing.
Now that W is not going to be working for her friend we spent a lot of time talking about other job options for her. All options were her idea and I was only a sounding board for her. I am thankful she is looking at job stuff so actively on her own. My main encouragement is that she picks something she enjoys and wants to do. She has a couple friends who do the self-employeed selling jobs. One sells jewelry and the other skin care products. Both would allow the flexibilty my W enjoys so she can be with the kids and help as school when she wants. The library job was already filled. She applied for a retail job at a local mall as well. Plus she is tutoring and getting her name back on the sub list at school. She is determined. At some point, she will need to narrow and focus her stuff so she isn't overwhelmed but that will come.
Took a day trip with the family on the holiday just to get out of the house and spend some family time. It wan't the best of destinations but my W said "at least it was time together as a family" and that made the day worth it.
A couple other nice instances...
D10 was talking about how she and her mom want to go to Hawaii after D10 graduates from high school. W has mentioned this a few times over the past couple years but always in the sense of it was a trip for "her". This time after D10 mentioned it W said, "And your Dad & brother can come with us"...
On the way back from the day trip, I asked if W had done her homework for MC. She had started it but not finished it. We had to do a self-eval survey on behavior styles we have in dealing with conflict. It prompted a good conversation on the drive home.
Things continue to go better. Still no affection going on between us. Last night as we were telling the kids good night, W as hugging and holding our son and being a bit playful. I have to say, it made me a bit sad that we are still not that way and I miss it. But, things are still getting better and I am optimistic that this too will return to our M in the future.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
