Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

[kat727]

This was a cycle that you both lived in. You stayed so what was the big deal? Well hon it is not how marriage should be. It is just two people in it not three. Believe me after being married 17 years with 4 kids I was all over the place! My then H would be over all of the time (cake eating). I told him I was tired of living in limbo and well he chose the bimbo.

It took probably a good three years after the divorce to get to a fairly good place and once in a while I do have slips where it gets me. I really do hope you can save your marriage but your H has a ton of work to do. I am not sure he is willing to do that. Just don't accept anything less than what you do deserve.

Hugs, kat