My plan is to continue to be the best H I can be, find my own happiness, and wait this period out as she figures out what she wants. Also start being a little more assertive and take charge whenever I can. For 5 months I have avoided putting any pressure on her or initiating any R talks. Originally she cried a lot and talked about running away or moving out to find her identity. Then, 3 months ago she said she would stay until her busy period at work was up, (2-3 weeks to go) Last week she mentioned being undecided on whether she was going to leave me or not.
She's been changing quite a bit. More outgoing now, but sometimes cold or even cruel, and not just to me. Sometimes I'm not sure I want to be with the new her, but then I figure she is just in a transition period and doesn't really know what she wants yet. I'm just not sure how long I can wait for her to figure things out. I'm also not sure of how much chance there is of her being happy with me post her "awakening".
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
