Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

[kat727]

I want to ask why you let his affairs, emotional or physical, go on. No, you can't end the affairs for him but you don't have to keep having your H have them in front of you.

I think it is time for the last resort...go dark. You are still too wrapped up in what he does. Treat him like the mailman. He deserves nothing more from you. He is still getting a rise out of you and you revert back to your old ways. Those didn't work before and they won't work now.

He doesn't believe you will leave because you have stuck around time after time. Your ultimatums carry no weight because you don't carry through. Don't give them unless you are ready to leave.

Weren't you going to move? Or is that all depending on you selling the house? House and son conversations only. Work on your life. I have told you before, the only people I knew that actually saved their marriages are the ones that had truly let go and were moving on without their spouses. No bluffing, so it isn't a game.

kat