Breakdown, I have read some of your sitch now. Wow. Talk about a roller coaster. You are a good man for sticking with it.
Your behavior, as you describe it, reminds me a lot of my own H. Insecure and never feeling like he was up to par in my eyes. Not speaking my LL. Tearing me down. Using sarcasm as a weapon. All of it. I have also known my H since we were 12 though we didn't start dating until we were 28.
The difference between my H and you is that he is not aware of any of these things, nor is he invested at all (at this point) in working on our M. He hasn't read one book and his IC doesn't seem to be helping him much. He is still all worked up about my prior misbehavior (sexting), for which I have apologized profusely, but hasn't seen that HIS behavior contributed. How were you able to get to the point where you could look inside and admit that you were partially to blame? How did you get over the anger you have towards your W?
What could I do or say to my H that would help him come around a bit? I am behaving much differently than your W in that I am totally kissing my H's butt. I could stand up to him but he's a lot angrier than you are and I think I need to back down as a 180.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
