You're doing grea Amelie. Your instinct to not pressure is the right one. In all likelihood the rehab therapist will tell him he has to break all contact with that part of his life. If he chooses not to, then you get to decide what sort of life you want for yourself and your child.

When he suggests that he can do as he pleases (texting his *friend*) and you must roll over or he will go get messed up and disappear it is completely unfair and manipulative. Don't give him that power.

Know your boundaries and stick to them firmly.

me 45
H 46
T 5
M 2.5
BD Sept 6 2011
OW Sept 8 2011
Threw him out Sept 8 2011