Hello I am really not sure what to do in this situation. After my husbands last theropy session he has been totally avoiding me. Very little talking no physical contact and he has been sleeping on the couch. Normally I would be asking him100 questions about his behavior but instead I choose to ignore him.
So he finally told me his theropist told him my theropist said I thought he was becoming suicidal and he is becoming an alcoholic. He waits for me to go to bed so he can have a beer and not be judged.
I said to him I never said suicidal. The last time he was drinking a lot I found him laying in the ditch by the road. I asked him what he was doing because it looked like he was trying to kill himself. What I did say is when he drinks in excess his behavior changes and he does crazy things. That is my concern.
He told me he is handling it and if my theropist is not telling his theropist the truth I need to talk to her. I said I am sitting right here why don't you ask me? He said he did not want to talk about it and walkes away.
what am I supposed to do when I have a husband who is ignoring me and stonewalling me? He really makes me feel like a second class citizen in my marriage. I feel like he is using this as a punishment for my past behavior. Everything seems to be on his terms. How can I gain some control back without ending my marriage????
Have you read the DR book?
You gain control back by doing a 180, detaching, and GAL.
He has an OW, he is depressed, seeing a therapist.
Do you think you can control him back into your marriage. Play a trick on him and make him want to come back.
Let him go. Have boundaries. Work on making your self a better person.
You should be off moderation now.
Keep posting on this thread. You did get some good advice on your infidelity thread. Maybe go back and re-read it.
