Well I wasn't projecting. I checked in with H today about some logistical things. He told me something had slipped his mind after "the late night adventure on Friday" he'd been getting the silent treatment until midday yesterday. Seriously?
I've had a think about this especially in terms that you guys have said. and here's what I would have done. If it had been a relative I would have said of course go. If it had been a female friend or coworker I would have got out of bed and gone along. If I was in a sitch where my BF told me it wouldn't be okay for me to meet his ex I'd be thinking I shouldn't be in a relationship with them. If the sitch were reversed I wouldn't mind MR S or anyone I was dating meeting H. Maybe that coworker and that's where the issue is, because he started seeing her so soon while he was still living in our home and while I still wanted to work on the relationship it feels odd. And she obviously isn't okay with our relationship. I'm off to the Big D forum after this...hopefully you'll all still check on me!
