She and I had a long discussion last night. She was actually driving to her boyfriend's house and I called her on it. We talked, yelled, and argued about it.
Finally she turned around and drove back half way there.
I told her I am working hard on being a better husband, I am truly too. My counselor and I are working through my communication problems. My wife said that being separated is identical to being married to me, she's alone and not having sex. She said she wants to be desired, talked to, understood, and that I treated her like a piece of furniture or a possession. All true but I didn't realize that was what I was doing.
She and I have been through hell since before we were married and bad event after bad event has befallen us. It's taken it's toll on us and me. I wasn't equipped for anything that we went through. We had so many medical bills I had to take another job to make ends meet, she had a hard time finding a job but in February she did get a job, a decent job too. We were finally making headway on getting everything paid off too when this happened.
She said she doesn't feel married to me so why should she care about what I want. She says I'm a great dad and want me involved that way and she wants us to be friendly but she doesn't want to reconcile with me. Our separation will be three weeks tomorrow, Tuesday the 4th of September.
The thing is that I don't know what short term goals apply here. She says she's numb and doesn't feel anything anymore.
