Divorced #4

[mamabird]

Just wanted to say hi to you Mrs. D. I didn't get through all of your threads but I did read the first one all the way through.

I have been looking for another woman on these boards with a similar sitch to mine. I also had a texting A, which I guess was an EA, and it got pretty inappropriate towards the end. Prior to that I had an "infatuation" with an ex-coworker that lasted the better part of 3 years. Similar to in your sitch, my H and I tried to work on the M when he found out about this "infatuation" (I say that instead of EA because we saw each other rarely and we never discussed any feelings for each other, but I guess some could classify that as an EA, and my H certainly did).

What was different in my sitch was that my H had become quite verbally/emotionally abusive towards me in the past year. So when texting man came along, it was a welcome change to hear how great I was vs what a screw up I was. So I know exactly why I engaged in this EA. It made me feel a lot better about myself at a time when I felt very, very sh!tty. I ended my EA at my husband's request but he still asked me to leave the house, which I did.

My H and I have just completed a 2 1/2 month separation, although we are not reconciling at this point. I was in a temporary living situation and had to move home to be with my kids. My H refuses to move out, so here we are. He has threatened D very seriously and states that he does not want to be together or work on it, although we have recently started ML again, which is nice in a way and confusing in a way. Things have improved a lot since we separated, but we have a very long way to go.

Anyway. Just wanted to let you know you are not the only girl out there who has made her share of dumb mistakes. I'll be following you!