Suppo: So sorry that your kids had to see that but I couldnt be more impressed with how you handled it. I'd like to think i'd be calm in such a situation, but quite honestly it would probably be all I could do not to throw a punch right in the middle of the store.
Its interesting your note about your kids asking you how you can be so calm....I dont think it would be possible to have set a better example for your kids about how to handle yourself. They may question it now, but you have to know that long after they are past the trauma of such an event they will remember how you handled it and use that many times in their life.
Wish I had something to tell you right now, i've been there years ago, i've had it confirmed with my own eyes and it hurts and I agree with you that I won't snoop right now b/c im not truly ready for the answer. Unfortunately you had the answer thrust upon you, but if there is a bright side....she has to have some pause right now wondering what she has just done, and she's gonna have to deal with any fallout from the kids.
Now at least you have the information....what will you do with it? You said you forgive, you said you will love her, and im certainly not trying to talk you out of that, but is that really how you feel? I hope it is.
