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[Denver_2010]

Suppo - You asked me on AT's thread whether I would give you the same advice that I was giving him.

In my second or third post to you on your thread, I wrote:

"Your goal right now is to communicate to your W, through actions not words, that you are LISTENING to her, that you understand her, and that you are capable of becoming that man that she originally fell in love with.

But you have to carefully balance this with what Starsky has told you... not being too available. I said in my last post that I suggest that you go LRT immediately. That means that you do not initiate contact with her, that you keep contact initiated by her short, you end conversations first... but you do not appear angry, depressed, or sad. Do that on your own time. Again, do not initiate R talk under any circumstances.

GAL (get a life). It serves two purposes IMO. 1) It will help you get through this and to maintain a positive mental attitude. 2) hopefully it will eventually cause your W to wonder what it is that you are doing... what it is that is making you happy in lieu of her presence in your life."

I think that my advice to you WAS practically the same thing that I told AT.

So yes. I think so.

But all of you have to remember that you have to do this the RIGHT way. Balance being the better option with giving her something to miss... something to fear losing.

I hope that makes sense Suppo.