BeingMe, I have admired you for living under the same roof w/a mlcer for as long as you have. Your patience and understanding have been admirable. The time has come for the cage door to open wide and help him out the door so that he can grow up and learn to fly on his own.
You, on the other hand, have grown by leaps and bounds through the pain and now must be given the opportunity to soar on your own. You will find, once the dust settles, that there is a whole new world out there just waiting for you.
I'll be thinking of you this evening. Good luck and stay strong.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
