I wrote some on your thread, here is some more. First let me tell you "I Love You." Because you needed that.
I don't tell my STBX anything any more. And when I quit initiating conversation it was tough. I have always felt the need to fill the silence. Now I don't tell him much. I was chatty the other day when i told him stuff about the quilt guild meeting, and he didn't hear a word I said, evidently.
And sometimes he talks to me and acts confused because he is out of the loop on what is happening in out world of kids and grandkids. Well which way does he want it?
Try not talking to him at all. Answer his questions with "Yes" or "No". Be busy with some handwork. I bet he reacts just the way my guy did, he will try to initiate conversations. Don't be rude, but don't elaborate. Let him miss what he will be missing if he continues on his path. And don't let that silence throw you. Enjoy it.
The MLC stuff seems to include a lot of cake eating behaviour. I just try to not get so sucked in. Baby steps, deal with on little thing at a time. I have had a hard time doing 180's. I wish I could have done a lot different, but it is what it is.
Many times I have read on here to move on with your life, but leave room for them to catch up with you later. Do what is best for you.
As for the not letting people treat us a certain way I have gotten way better at just stating my feelings right away. When my son doesn't seem to care about helping me with getting ready to sell the house and goes off on crazy tangents about redesigning the front yard, or building a special compost heap I stop him and tell him my objective.
He mows the yard today and picks up his coconut husk collection out of the back yard. More action less talk. Then when he goes back on crazy tangent I tell him when he owns his own house he can do what he wants,but today I just want the lawn mowed and trash gone.
So identify how you want treated different and then ask directly for what you want. Repeat as needed.
Good Luck!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
