Here is my sitch. It is really very scripted to the ones that are here but a bit different. I met my W not long after her first M failed. I don't think she had enough time to work things through. We quickly got P and that began a whole lot of stress early on in our M. I was jealous and controlling at the beginning and she always having EA with other men...Sex was only o.k as we had kids early on and lots of stress with trying to survive and everything moving on so fast. She has moved out to her own place and is being supported by her parents and a part time job that she has. I think she has another man but I am not sure and don't want to ask because I am trying to do a 180. but should I not find out? He is over there when my kids are there and over there when they are not. he is in the band with her and is a very strange person and she says they are just friends and there is no way she would have a R with him. Here is the other part my wife is a WAW and the kids have really bonded with me over the last couple of years and don't want to be at her place at all and count the days until they are with me again. I don't know if I have a WAW or MLC crises wife. She has joined a band and spends all her time with the band. I too did all the wrong things and have since detached and am waiting to here from her. She does call but when she leaves a message it is vague and general so I have not been responding to them; I just have my kids call her back. This is so hard I have really bonded with my girls and they love me very much...which creates a little animosity from my W towards me...when they are with me they don't miss her that much but when they are away from me they call crying about how much they miss me; I can hear my W yelling at them in the background to clean up this or that...what do I do? I don't want to detach from my kids....
