Dropping the rope, hope I'm doing the right thing.

[Accuray]

Yes, I'm sure he's feeling badly -- he wants you in his life but not too close. You're outside his comfort zone now so he's trying to get you back to the line. Just *know* that if you take him up on his offers and start to get close, you'll be tempted to push for a better relationship and when you do that, he'll pull back again and the cycle will repeat. I've witnessed this for myself over and over.

You will have the opportunity to reconnect with him in the future if you want, but it must get worse before it gets better. He has to see and believe that you are gone. That will reset the landscape for both of you. If you do come back together, you're going to do it from a place of strength with some new boundaries.

For now, stay your course. Get to the place where you really *do* have lots of plans. That feeling of relief you're experiencing will grow with continued separation. The more independent you feel, the better you'll feel. You'll still miss him I'm sure, but you'll find a new level of peace you haven't had in a while.

Accuray