Hi Terri, there are plenty of WAS success stories. Even MLC success stories. And yes, I'm talking specifically about reconciliation, although many of us take on the meaning of success as simply rebuilding our lives without our spouses, learning to become even better versions of ourselves, and moving on with our lives, independent of our spouses, whether that is perpetual separation or D.
As I notice you've registered back in May of this year, I suspect you've been reading the boards silently, looking for advice and help in other sitches.
I would recommend and encourage you to start your own thread so that we can help support you even better, in your specific sitch and circumstances. While the work is the same, DB can and should be modified specifically for our sitches which might mean that what works for one may not work for another and third party feedback can sometimes help us understand where we are stuck and help us get our breakthrough.
So to answer your question above, you can not "get him" to work on things... sort of...
What you MIGHT be able to do is... encourage good behaviour from him... which really is... a way to encourage him to work on things...
