Yes three at home, it can be tough, S25 definitely shouldn't be here, and he causes me lots of problems. The other two are at uni so they won't be leaving home any time soon. They are great kids.
I can relate to what you said about your H's father. My H said the same thing at BD..."I don't want to end up like my mother and father". His father is a bitter old man, but stayed loyal to H's mother even though she had two affairs during their marriage. His parents live apart but see each other every day for lunch and/or movies. He still supports her financially and in every other way. They go on vacation together every year. Strange, but it seems to work for them. They would have killed each other if they still lived in the same house. I don't want that sort of relationship with my H....but I am nothing like his mother either. She was and still is spoilt and controlling...she never worked a day in her life (well paid work) and was given everything by her H.
