Thank you KD. So if Im reading this correctly, [i]I shouldnt be NCing but just detaching. And I need to continue to make myself more available and open as I have been doing here and there to start rebuilding our relationship?
Yes.
Think of detaching (as we often use the term here) strictly from an emotional perspective. An emotional stabalizer. NOT about removing yourself from interactions with your X.
What that does is help you not react when "bad stuff happens" and lets us be authentic and genuine when there ARE interactions. ie. we're not putting on a show for our spouse or X, rather we are just the best US we can be... always... whether with our spouse/X or otherwise...
It helps us ignore the bad behaviour and focus on the good behaviour... theirs AND ours...
