Last weekend I asked for what I wanted. (step #3, DR) Told her I would like it if we had more physical contact. Nothing big, I said, just hold hands, scratch backs, brush hair, maybe a hug here or there.
That's where that (step #3) should have ended. It doesn't say, "ask for what you want and then negotiate how it might work")
Originally Posted By: ForeverYoung
She said "I can't do that, and you know why". I asked her why, and she was reluctant to answer, but I (foolishly?) pressed her and she eventually dropped the whole "I'm not attracted to you" bomb again.
What you can take away from this is, asking for what you wanted felt like pressure to your W. Again, once she indicated she "can't" (which is code for "I don't know what I want, please stop pressuring me"), there really was nothing more that you needed to do, in regards to step #3.
At that time, you move forward to step #4, avoiding cheeseless tunnels. That being, stop trying to get what you want because that's not working.
So then you move to step #5, which is experimenting and monitoring results. This includes 180s, acting "as if", doing something different... or even doing nothing...
What do you think the "positive results" between the two of you was caused by? Who do you think initiated the positive results, and why?
