So I ended up sending X a text saying I waz going ti get C in counceling and that he misses us together, and that hes scared his dad is going to get married to someone else. No response. None. And I know I wouldnt get one cause he is home now from work and shes there. Ugh!!!!
I don't talk about the gf when I am around my son. I know that will only confuse him more, but I wonder if hes overheard a phone conversation I had with my sister. We were both outside. He was playing with friends, so I didnt think he was paying attention. Now I feel that shame because of C may or may not have heard..... Thursday night didnt end so well.
Sorry MrsD but I just want to ask you why you informed X about what your son had said? What was the purpose of it? I'm asking because I did something similar at one point and I have since realised that my reason for doing it was simply to guilt my W into reconsidering her position. What else would it accomplish? If you answer the same thing. Stop it now and never do it again. It puts pressure on him coming directly from you. If your S tells him directly, it's different but now, you don't want him to see you as someone trying to pressure him into something he doesn't want (for now). I know that the following day's event leads to believe that all is well and maybe it is (I truly hope it is girl) but I'd be careful about stuff like that in the future. Always ask yourself what is the real reason behind every word and action towards your X. I'm glad you feel good today. Take care and have fun at your concert.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Hey Arsene. No i didn't do it to make him feel pressured. I told him because hes going to need to pay half the copay. It was a co-parenting conversation. "I think he needs help. And I am going to need help paying for it". It wasnt to make him quilty, or anything at all.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
You did fine! If letting the other parent know that your child may need counseling or has to possibly go to the Dr., and they feel guilty about it, then so be it. If they feel guilty due to things that have to do with your children, then that is their issue to deal with.
Then again I can totally understand where Arsene's perspective is coming from as well. The thing is now, you can't take it back & it is water under the bridge, so move forth.
You did fine! If letting the other parent know that your child may need counseling or has to possibly go to the Dr., and they feel guilty about it, then so be it. If they feel guilty due to things that have to do with your children, then that is their issue to deal with.
Then again I can totally understand where Arsene's perspective is coming from as well. The thing is now, you can't take it back & it is water under the bridge, so move forth.
God Speed Freshman!
I completely see what Arsene was pointing out as well.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
