Thanks Chatter and Starsky... Thankfully, I didn't in any way act on the information I got last night... (Mutual friend in C.FL stopped by and let me know she changed her last name on FB and was tagged with her whole family and OM at the beach).
I AM simply going to use this to strengthen my resolve in this... Plan on having "The Conversation" soon, and truly begin detaching and moving on...
Despite the new info, I am not to plan D, but I am now at the point that I can't keep "hoping for the best" and not taking solid action.
I'm going completely dark until I have the talk with her. It would be simple to do it this weekend, but I'm not sure if it's a great ides...