In their mind they are, but if they simply knew the principle of keep doing what works and if its not working change then they would have changed the communication somehow until we actually heard it.
It's surprising that they don't because they seem to have learned the fine art of DBing much faster than we do. I'd love to be able to be detached half as much as W is.
Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
I disagree. She was telling you. From her perspective it was a perfectly normal and appropriate way for her to communicate to you. Her mistake was to realize that it was not working and to find a different way to communicate. Her mistake was allowing herself to give up.
Yeah, that's what hurts the most in this whole business. I know that until very recently, there had never been a doubt in my mind that I wouldn't give up on our family, not ever in our entire marriage. I would have hoped that this family was as important to W as it is to me. Then again, I might have left too if I'd been married to me.
Great posts my friends!!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
