thanks vero and ajm, i will try to keep things polite and kind. i went to the attorney today and he's sending H a letter notifying him that i have retained him for a colaborative divorce. the letter will talk about this kind of divorce and mention other attornys in the area who also offer it so H can get his own.
the letter will give him a heads up that documents verifying the pension funds and 401K funds will be required and an accountant will have to be hired to determine values of our assets.
the attorney will also caution him about movement of marital funds and direct deposits of his paycheck. hopefully, he will not monkey around with our money.
i felt very calm after the appointment; almost relieved. however, since then, a wave of sadness has come through. i'll be honest, it's a little scary. i'm not sure how H will react, what it will do to our "friendly-type" relationship?
he texted me this morning that he wants to come by in the morning to put everything back from the hurricane preparation. i said, sure, it will be fine but if he didn't mind, to please text me when he's ready to head this way and again when he's readly to leave. he answered with a little "pet" reply we've had for an acknowledgement.
i just don't get him. i'm sure the "pet" replys will stop after he gets the letter. i don't want this to get ugly...
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
