First Post

[TeaEarlGreyHot]

This is how it begins...helping and then "helpful" discussions on other topics.

Whether you know it or not you are being blamed for what she feels (or fails to feel) in the marriage. It may have something to do with what you do and how you "be" or, it may not. In either case, it provides the justification she needs or feels she needs to pursue something different.

She (and you) are responding to a feeling and acting as if the feeling is THEE TRUTH, not realizing that in a moment you'll have another feeling and then another, and then another, until you don't.And if there is someone else involved, the grass will almost always look greener on the other side...it is difficult if not downright impossible to compete with "the other."

As for your kids if you go your separate ways (even for a short while), if it isn't about them, then don't put them in the middle. That is about the worst possible thing you could do.

The Captain