wow...kevin..you have been sober for 19 yrs.congrats. how did you do that? think about it.you take your personal inventory. not other peoples. i know it hurts and feels like she is doing this to YOU. fact is, you dont matter right now.i wasnt able to grasp that very quickly. the other guys, the meaness, the kicking you out thing. that is all for her. she is running away from you. dont chase cuz she'll keep going. you need to think about you. selfishly take the time to better yourself. just like when you got sober. you said the dating market there isnt good for her. so why not work on being the best option out there? you already have a headstart, you are married to her. concentrate on you. be happy. do stuff for you. when you are happy it shows. people see through the fake happy. the act as if thing, didnt work with my W. she knew i was miserable and i think she liked it. it worked for me. i acted enough that i finally started becoming happy. now she is mad..lol whatever tho. anyway, i am not a great help. i do know you need to slow down and chill. why help her sell the house or get it ready? do you want to be her slave? cmon man.. LL's dont really work when she is running from ya. be you. stop chasing her. that i know 100% does not work. let her contact you. dont show up wednesday. let her call to see where you are. just tell her you got busy and lost track of time. if she wants to meet, fine. if she doesnt call, you see where she stands. its her house tight now. she fired you. why try so hard to help someone who doesnt want you right now? oh, stop using her fathers death as an excuse. it was the straw that broke the back, not the cause. think man. look deep inside you. see what she sees. see how you can be a better person. a better you. strong, confident, happy. you can do it!
