Well, we are having an agreement drafted by the mediator. There is a transition over the next 4 months to transition to a full 50/50 custody arrangement by Jan 1. It will be 2 2 3 beginning on Mondays. It works out that we have alternating 3 day weekends. For the next 4 months I am giving W my Sunday nights. This schedule only applies to D8. D2 will be gradually placed into the same rotation over the next 4 months as well, but I won't begin having her overnight until Oct. and then only once a week for two weeks, then twice, then days in succession.
Overall, I'm content with how it will end up. Still bothered by having to give her my nights (as if it's somehow harder for her to adjust than me), but realize it's only 8 days to ultimately get what I was seeking.
I'm looking forward to shifting some focus back to myself and the changes I want to take place. GALing, PMA, 180's, etc.
The work has yet to really begin, but I feel so much better about my sitch than even a week ago. I do believe there's hope, and I am committed to changing myself for the better.
The schedule makes detaching a little easier, because all kid exchanges will be done from school/daycare and not in person. Part of me wants to see W to have her witness any change, but I also don't want any negative interactions.
So...here I go. DBing to the best of my ability, with the help of all of you.
I hope to post (journal) often to gauge any progress and seek much needed advice and encouragement.
