"After I had the kids in bed she said she wanted company so I lied next to her and she reached over and held my hand. First physical contact initiated by her since this started but I realized it might just be because of me taking care of everything for the day. Did not read anything into it."
"She then walked up to me and and gave me a hug and said she did not want to be apart from me and asked me to not hurt her again."
Wow Sam, congrats! These are more than baby steps, they are significant leaps forward and you should celebrate them to yourself. But remember what Michele says in her books and don't get overly enthusiastic or assume everything is "back to normal". Keep up with the 180's and hold yourself back a bit, but remain available. Let her come to you. I can't remember who said this, but it's like feeding a squirrel- hold perfectly still and it'll come take the food out of your hand but make even the tiniest movement and it scurries away and it may be quite some time before it comes back. So take your time, stick with the 180's (stick with them forever) and let your wife keep making the moves towards you. Be there for her, but don't try to rush or push her.
