Have you read the His needs her needs? If not then you should, and if you have you should read one of the companion books its called Love Busters. Im sure that like most of us you didnt do some things that you should have done in your marriage, but I have come to realize that it probably wasn't so much what I didnt do, as what I DID do.
I haven't yet but it is on mylist of books to buy on my next amazonian expedition (I still haven't paid my friend for the expedited order of DR).
Originally Posted By: Carnac
My wife said she was scared of me.....i didnt understand that at all b/c there's no way I would EVER touch my wife, and she even said she knew that I wouldnt, but she also said that I got angry so often she was worried about saying anything to me for fear it would make me mad. And then I did one of two or three things...passive agressive ignoring, punishing by bringing up old stuff or yelling.
Anger in itself isnt a bad thing, its what we do with it that is bad. Im slowly learning that most of my anger comes from MY expectations of others and how they SHOULD act. Quite honestly these people dont even know how I think they should act, and really what gives me the right to expect any other human to act in any way I have tried to force others through anger to act the way that I think they SHOULD act. Its absurd...thus you end up like me being told your controlling and angry and don't think that your either one until you do a little introspection and realize that your absolutely both.
That sounds exactly like my sitch and my thoughts about it.
Gee Carnac, reading about all of this is making me wonder if we're not all out of the same mold. and our Ws as well, I guess.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
