Gal, I took your advice about researching distancer/pursuer. I had come across that concept before, but I think I'm ready now to understand it more.

It hit me like a ton of bricks -- not just with H, but many times in my life have I been a pursuer. thanks SO much for the suggestion to investigate that more. I have a lot of food for thought tonight!!!

Me54/H47
'08 H is "done"
March '12 H moved out
Brink of D, December '12
2014 totally reconciled!
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"I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal."
Jim Conway