I've read your thread. Sorry for your pain. I really am. But your anger is NOT helpful and you don't sound reflective.
Like it's ALL about her father's death?
I don't believe it. My father's death SHOCKED me. My h was a rock, thank God. No pressure, no expectations. He let me heal.
When our d4 asked if I was "going to be sad everyday", I got help. And I got better. But I never had to worry how my h felt about my grief or HIS loneliness or HIS coping with me or HIS needs. He was part of the healing.
Maybe you tired of her grief and she sensed selfishness in you (I don't know, I'm spitballing)
but you say YOU were frustrated that you could not help her more and to me it sounded a bit more like you were frustrated that she wasn't healing fast enough, for YOU...
There are some couples who have a spouse facing loss and when one isn't THERE for the other, it can seem unforgivable to the one grieving.
Regardless
I've heard nothing about what you are working on to improve yourself as a partner.
Bottom line, Your w will only return to you if she believes that marriage to you
can be better/different than before. SO- Exactly how are you DEMONSTRATING to her that it can be?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
