Rough: thanks for checking in on my thread, I was just reading your post about anger and honestly it sounds just like my wife and i only reversed. Obviously from the snide comments your wife makes she is very much like I was, and if you internalize and don't say anything then your just like my wife.
Let me tell you we can probably help one another more than you can imagine, I can tell you that my snide comments and outbursts were done to get my way simple as that. If I didnt like the way you did something today, or if you ticked me off over something then I made the snide comment and maybe used a little bit of passive agressiveness by not talking or at the very least being short so you dang well knew I was ticked off. Why did I do this? Because the next time you were in a similar situation you'd do it my way, or you'd at least try to make sure and please me so you didnt have to deal with that again. I hate admitting that, writing that out hurts me more than I can tell you, but its the truth and it stems from selfishness....i always want my way.
My wife on the other hand would be mad as heck and say that everything was fine. I've seen texts, emails and heard conversations that not only made me into a monster, but showed just how much repressed anger she was carrying around. I was close 6 months ago to losing my job with a company i've spent almost 20 years with and am on track to one day run....her text to her best friend was that she was sick of hearing me whine about it and she didnt care if I lost it or not....this was 2 days after it happened. But honestly we most likely ML that very day b/c she wouldnt want me to know she was upset b/c i'd want to talk about it and 'fix' it and she would rather just not face it.
Anyway, long winded post and i'll try to give you some more tomorrow, but I was shocked when you wrote that, and then when i saw your wife's texts it looked like something I would have written 4 months ago if we had split then.
