Your post yesterday was great. Good job on ignoring your H's bad behaviour. And as you can, encourage his good behaviours. And it's unfortunate about your friend who taught you in the first plane. It's understandable that would be the first your H would want to let go.
I do wonder how much of your interaction with your H is personality and how much of it is carried over from your job / work. Is it possible that you treat most interactions with your H as a negotiation?
How would you like "your man"? Do you want him to stand up to you? Do you enjoy being in the driver seat? I'm not suggesting anything, I'm just asking. I'm wondering if an issue your H has is your dominant, take charge personality?
ie. He SAID he was going to fix things, like the lamp... probably WANTED to fix things, like the lamp... in the end... he knew (is this a pattern) that you would eventually get it done yourself... so his pattern could be more of the same "see, any time I say I'll do something, you just go over my head, anyhow..."
Like I said, just curious. Maybe some food for thought.
