Denver: I'll certainly craft that very business-like email, but not sure if I can do it tomorrow, as it'll be a crazy-busy day.
And apologies for making it sound like a PH forum for a minute! I'll keep those details out of it in the future!
I must say that although this was only a very small baby step, I feel pretty good about it... I'm standing up for myself a bit, trying to get things done on MY terms, and despite early hiccups, mostly handled myself with the strength and dignity that I've been lacking recently.
I don't plan on responding at all to her emails or texts for a while, not matter how inflammatory they may be. I'll be, as I proved earlier today, too likely to respond with emotion, and without a level-head, which will only hurt what I'm doing here. I'm pretty sure if I sent the "until we can both respect one another" type email or text that it would only incense her to an uncomfortable level... I know her, and I know that she'll be VERY upset for a while (she tends to hold grudges for quite a while) but I can't imagine that she can continue to be upset over this situation... I mean all I'm trying to do is talk to her in person about some major issues (which she's only guessing about... and she seems to be guessing that I'll be telling her I'm having an A, which is INSANE! )
I think i'll be able to sleep pretty well tonight, knowing I've taken the first step toward fighting for MYSELF while still fighting for the Marriage! That's 180 central for me, who was always willing to do WHATEVER I could to make W happy, putting my feelings aside...
Chatterbug: Your advice, albeit brief, is sage-like. 24 hour rule would do wonders... But knowing how impatient I am, I may have to make it a 12 hour rule!
