It is so hard Rough. I definitely relate to your predicament. Ultimately, you have to do what you feel is right. Feel your way through your sitch using your instincts and DB as your guide.

I may think about this some more and get back to you with some more thoughts.

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce