The toddler tantrums have returned! This time *he* doesn't think something I asked for in discovery is relevant, so he didn't provide it. Then when I explained why I thought he should provide it, he called it "arbitrary." Then he accused me of making things more complicated/expensive for asking for it (this is not that complicated) and tried to throw some other things back at me, none of which were logical.
I remained calm, told him I wasn't going to argue the point, etc. He did this while I was making dinner so I just kept on making dinner. I said "no one said this was easy" and again he threw back at me as if *I* was the one making things difficult.
He also got annoyed that I indicated interest in some property that I think was a wedding present (or, at least, gift to the both of us) that he considers a "family heirloom." Then he scoffed at having to pay for a cleaning service if there was a possibility that I was going to stay in the house.
Now I'm getting pissy emails from him about logistical things. It's really like he just doesn't remember having agreed to certain things from 2-3 weeks ago. Amazing.
He continues to only complain about work and how he is "wronged" by other things that happen around him (which he takes to be happening "to" him) and that it is such an injustice that these things occurred! How dare some customer service representative treat him in the "stupid" way they did!
I just say "that stinks" and go on with my business.
I had a convo with a coworker about how I can see that stbx got so overwhelmed with M, a house, and a frustrating job, and instead of getting rid of the job, when I started pressuring him to focus more on the M and the house and to look for another job, he went the other way.
Really, what a gift that has been for me. I am so so so glad to have this opportunity to step back and really see his negative behavior patterns for what they are - to really study with them and understand why they always left me with a vague sense of unease in the past - a sense that I always downplayed, telling myself it was me with the problem and that I shouldn't be feeling uneasy. Wrong!
I'm making plans now to enjoy the long weekend ahead. I'm going to try to take care of going through the discovery stuff that he did provide to see where we stand, and to get some more work done on the last major house project that needs to be done before we get closer to the appraisal.
I've also looked at some other listings in my area in case I end up not being able to keep the house, but I really want to stay here. However, if his share of the equity is more than I can cover, I'm not quite sure what I'm going to do.
