In my opinion, you shouldn't even address the issue with J unless placed directly on the spot. And then only after careful thought into what your response will be.
I think that you ought to compose a well crafted email detailing, in very direct terms, what your W needs to do to make the changes to her insurance and other financial ties. I would tell her that you will send her a check for what you owe her by [date]. And keep to that.
This should be a very business like, stale, email...
"W, in response to your last text yesterday.... You need to do this, that, and this. I will mail you a check for the $500 that I owe you by [date]. I hope that you are well."
I'd do this tomorrow probably.
You can expect more fireworks. Maybe even before that email. Your instinct will be to respond and to try and temper down her anger. My advice is not to be drawn into her craziness.
IF ANYTHING, you could send a short response... "I will respond when we are both being respectful of one another. Talk to you soon."
I'm not even sure that I'd send that right now.
Let her stew. That's my opinion.
Denver
P.S. I will post some of my W's own vitriol in her responses to similar communications that I had with her. Maybe tomorrow if I have time.
Hang in there. You are doing fine.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
