Get them there, let it work. Getting them there is 90%. TRUST ME! Read my sitch. Saved my M. I REALLY believe that. W went almost against her will, JK, and even told me so there, but after the weekend, we were 75% reconciled. You don't have to share there with group at all UNLESS you want to.
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!