Thanks so much for the hand Denver. I like that response so much that I used it almost verbatim... Only added her name at the end.
I've been chatting with a good friend via email about this situation, and she's brought up some fantastic points about needing to start taking some control back... to stop rolling over to every one of her needs and requests... She knows me VERY well and always has great insight for me.
I'm pretty sure I'll be getting a negative response to that last text, but it feels good to at least TRY to take some control here. As always, faithful readers, I'll keep you updated... And I'll commit to myself that I won't ACT on anything unless it's very measured, I'm in control of my own emotions, and I come here for help whenever it's necessary!