Divorced #3

[Mrs D]

Ok - this is just a silly question that Im throwing out there because I thought of a converation that we had a few weeks back. So, when someone files for divorce, and their spouse is living in seperate places - does the grieving process start then? Lets say - spouse one leaves, spouse two files 3 months later. Does that grieving for the loss of the marriage start at that point? What if said spouses were still very much together up till a month and a half after divorce is final? Does that spouse number two really grieve prior to filing? Or does the grieving process start at the time of moving on? OK - I think Im mixing myself up. Does the grieving process of losing the marriage start at the time spouse one leaves, or when spouse two files, or when the actual relationship is completely over?